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You’ve already got a remote control for your TV and your stereo, but the best remote control vibrators are a whole ‘nother ball game, allowing you to dial up the sensations during sex without barely lifting a finger. Yep, nowadays you don’t have to awkwardly fumble with the buttons embedded on your sex toys during a romp like a plebe. Many vibrators for women and men come with their own remote or sync up with an app on your phone for ease of use and even some long-distance intrigue. Plus, when you add tech assistance to your sex life, you're just asking for a good time. Don't believe us? Keep scrolling for more details on why, and what to try.
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First and foremost: because it’s convenient. Doing an awkward reach-around to dial up your vibrator’s settings manually can disrupt the flow of sex (whether solo or with a partner), especially if the buttons are hard to discern by feel alone. And if you're getting down in low lighting, it can be even trickier to locate the right button in the heat of the moment without taking five.
Another reason to use a remote-control vibrator is that it's well-suited for surreptitious public play. Some people like to wear a panty vibe or vibrating butt plug while out on a dinner date, for example, giving their partner the remote for some sneaky under-the-table foreplay. (Obviously, use your discretion and be respectful to those around you—it’s icky to involve other people in your sex life without their consent!)
Aside from the benefits listed above, remote-control vibrators have other advantages for specific types of people, including:
People engaging in BDSM: The power play of dominance and submission goes hand-in-hand with this type of toy, since one partner can take full control of the sensations the other person will feel. You could try using a remote to edge someone, for example, getting them close to orgasm and then backing off until they’re begging for more.
People in long-distance relationships: If your toy can be remotely controlled via a smartphone app, odds are good that you can send your long-distance partner an invitation to operate your toy from afar using their own phone. Until technology progresses to the point that we can hook up with each other’s holograms, this is the closest you can get to having sex with a faraway paramour.
People with chronic pain or a disability: If you find it difficult to manually operate sex toys because of pain, muscle strength issues, and so on, a remote-control toy is also a great workaround to consider, whether you plan to use it on yourself, on a partner, or both.
With all that in mind, here are some of the best remote-control sex toys.
Battery Life: 2.5 hours Material: Silicone How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the O-shaped part of the toy before inserting it vaginally, positioning the external arm so it sits on your clitoris. Then, press the main button on the toy or use the included remote to power it on, pressing the plus and minus buttons to switch up the vibration intensity and the arrow buttons to toggle between vibration modes. You can even sync the toy up to the We-Vibe app.
We-Vibe's flagship product is meant to be “worn” during intercourse to provide some extra stimulation for both partners, though it can level up masturbation or non-penetrative types of sex, too. This latest version is different from previous iterations in that its internal portion is shaped like an “O,” which helps the toy stay in place better during sex. It's ideal for any time you want G-spot and clit stimulation simultaneously. “The combination of internal and external vibrations feels fantastic, and it fits really well,” one reviewer wrote.
Pros: Strong, rumbly vibrations; 10+ different vibration modes; “O” shape for more secure placement; adjustable fit; can be controlled via remote or smartphone app for short-distance or long-distance play; includes a travel pouch; waterproof; quiet Cons: May be uncomfortable if you have a small vagina or a large penis
Battery Life: 3 hours Material: Silicone and ABS plastic How to Use: Hold down the power button for three seconds to turn the toy on or off. Use the same button to cycle through its settings, or control it through the Lovense app.
Wearing a vibrator in public can be nerve-wracking if you don't trust the vibrator to stay put (or stay quiet), but the Ferri solves those issues so you can just focus on pleasure. This toy comes with a magnetic clip that secures it in the exact right position inside your underwear for discreet clitoral stimulation. “This product is amazinggggg for long-distance relationships and even solo play,” one Amazon reviewer raved.
Pros: Magnetic design keeps toy anchored in your underwear; strong and rumbly vibrations; three vibration intensity levels and 10+ vibration patterns; contoured shape targets the clitoris; can be used long-distance; waterproof Cons: Magnetic cap is easy to lose (although it does come with one replacement cap); does not come with a remote and can only be remotely controlled via your phone
Battery Life: Up to 45 minutes Material: Silicone and ABS plastic How to Use: Hold down the button on the vibrator for a few seconds to turn it on, or tap the power button on the remote. Toggle between the plus and minus buttons on the remote to change the vibration intensity and the arrow buttons to switch up the vibration mode.
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Someone who's more into internal play than clitoral stimulation might enjoy an egg-shaped internal vibe like this one. Its amazingly powerful vibrations thrum against the G-spot, whether you wear this toy during sexual activity or just casually while going about your day. You can even wear it while receiving oral sex, letting your partner rev up the vibrator as you get closer to orgasm.
Pros: Very powerful vibrations; five vibration intensity levels and five patterns; looped retrieval cord for easy removal; waterproof Cons: May be too loud for discreet public use; may start to slip out over time if worn while standing upright; short battery life
Battery Life: Not listed Material: Silicone and ABS plastic How to Use: Hold down the power button for two seconds to turn the toy on or off. Use the other two buttons to control the vibration and pressure waves, or pair the toy with the Satisfyer app on your phone to control it that way.
This pressure-wave toy combines vibration with rhythmic “waves” of air to stimulate the clitoris, in a way that some users say feels comparable to cunnilingus. If you often find yourself wishing you could give your long-distance partner some oral pleasure, this might just be the next best thing, since you can control the intensity of the sensations from afar via the Satisfyer app. “This thing is sexual luxury in the palm of your hand,” one Amazon reviewer wrote. “The vibration plus the air pulsing takes the whole thing to another level.”
Pros: 11 pressure wave intensities and 11 vibration intensities; vibration and pressure waves can be used independently of each other; can be controlled via phone app from nearby or far away; handle doubles as a vibrating G-spot dildo; waterproof Cons: May not form a tight enough seal around particularly small clits; does not come with a remote and can only be remotely controlled via your phone
Battery Life: 5 hours Material: Silicone How to Use: Hold the “up” button for three seconds to turn the toy on or off. Quickly press either of the buttons to cycle through the toy’s vibration settings, or pair it with the Lovense app on your phone.
It's rare to find a wand vibrator that can be controlled remotely, but this is an excellent one. It's got deep, satisfying vibrations and works just as well for all-over body massage as it does on your junk. This vibe can be controlled by someone else if you connect it to the Lovense app, which could be a fun addition to phone sex or Zoom sex. “If you've never tried one of these, you're missing out,” one Amazon reviewer wrote. “Absolutely the best vibrator out there, and my wife has tried several.”
Pros: Powerful, rumbly vibrations; incrementally adjustable intensity; can be controlled from nearby or from a distance; long battery life; waterproof; petite for a wand vibe Cons: Can get loud on higher speeds; does not come with a remote and can only be remotely controlled via your phone
Battery Life: Up to 2 hours Material: Silicone How to Use: Press the main button on the toy to turn it on, and repeat to cycle through the toy’s vibration modes. You can also control it by pairing it with the We-Vibe app. Apply some water-based lube to the inside of the ring before sliding it down to the base of your penis. Position the vibrating section either facing up or facing down to stimulate your partner’s clitoris or perineum (depending on their anatomy and preferences) during sex.
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Depending on what position you're in, it can be super awkward to reach down during sex to change the settings on a vibrating cock ring—but not this one, which can be controlled on your phone via We-Vibe's app. It amps up the sensations of penetrative sex, and can also be a fun addition to masturbation. And like most cock rings, it provides a little compression at the base of your shaft that can help you maintain a stronger erection.
Pros: Strong, rumbly vibrations; three vibration speeds and eight patterns; Bluetooth-controllable via the We-Vibe app; quiet; waterproof Cons: May be too tight for girthier penises; does not come with a remote and can only be remotely controlled via your phone
Battery Life: Up to 1 hour Material: Silicone and ABS plastic How to Use: Press and hold the power button to turn the toy on or off. Apply water-based lube to the inside of the toy before slipping your penis into it. Control its vibration intensity with the buttons on the toy or on the included watch remote.
This innovative vibrator wraps around your shaft—whether hard or flaccid—for intense sensations that feel so much better than your hand. You can stroke it up and down if you want, or massage other pleasure points like the super-sensitive frenulum on the underside of the penis. It comes with a wrist watch-esque remote, which makes it feel like the kind of thing James Bond would jerk off with. “After a week of experimentation, I'm still finding new reasons to love it,” one Babeland reviewer wrote.
Pros: Powerful, rumbly vibrations; six vibration settings; can be used with or without an erection; includes a remote with a watch strap for added convenience; waterproof Cons: Short battery life; may not work for very short or very thick penises; can’t be controlled long-distance
Battery Life: 2 hours Material: Silicone and ABS plastic How to Use: Hold the on/off button for two seconds to turn the toy on or off. Adjust the angle of the head to suit your preferences. Use the same button to cycle through the toy’s modes, or control it with the We-Vibe app or the included remote.
This petite vibrating butt plug goes to work via the included remote or the accompanying We-Vibe app. The angle is adjustable, so you can target specific spots like the prostate or the G-spot, indirectly through the vaginal wall. “Amazing quality. Very comfortable. Well worth the money,” one Amazon reviewer raved. “If this was ever to break or get lost, I would buy another one immediately.”
Pros: Good shape and size for anal beginners; 10+ vibration modes; adjustable angle; stimulates both the prostate and the perineum; Bluetooth-controllable for short-distance or long-distance play; waterproof Cons: May be smaller than some users would prefer
Battery Life: 90 minutes Material: Silicone How to Use: Apply water-based lube before inserting. Hold down the button on the toy for three seconds to turn it on or off. Control the toy’s vibrations using that same button or by connecting it to the Lovense app.
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The shape and adjustable angle of this vibrating plug make it perfect for prostate stimulation, whether you're controlling it yourself or letting someone else take over. It has two motors: an internal one to hit the prostate, and an external one for the perineum (or "taint"). Each motor can be controlled independently using the Lovense app, letting you cherrypick the exact combo of sensations you're looking for. “It’s by far the most powerful and intense vibrator I’ve used,” said one Amazon reviewer. “My whole body is relaxed and tingly after using this.”
Pros: Two motors to stimulate both prostate and perineum; adjustable angle; powerful, rumbly vibrations with multiple settings; can be used long-distance; quiet; waterproof; storage bag included Cons: Does not come with a remote and can only be remotely controlled via your phone
Battery Life: N/A Material: Steel, aluminum, plastic, polyurethane, and silicone How to Use: Control the toy via its corded remote control or by connecting it to the Cowgirl app.
Craving mega-strong vibrations? Plug this behemoth into the wall, climb on top, and ride your way to bliss. It's a pretty big investment, but you're unlikely to find a vibrator more powerful than this. And since it has an attached remote as well as long-distance capabilities, you can let someone else take the reins when you want to. With various different attachments available, this toy is surprisingly versatile. One Amazon reviewer described using it thusly: “The most intense O's I’ve ever had, and my husband loves to see me enjoy it.”
Pros: Very powerful vibrations; vibrates and rotates; both functions can be controlled independently; comfortably padded saddle seat; comes with two silicone attachments (and others sold separately) which are easy to remove and clean between uses; can be controlled via the Cowgirl app or the included wired remote; slip-resistant silicone base Cons: Loud; heavy and hard to move around; requires a nearby electrical outlet; long-distance connectivity is complicated to set up; may be uncomfortable for users with hip/knee issues; has to be used on a stable, flat surface; requires some setup
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